Little Pleasures vs. Great Fulfillment

May 29th, 2008

I have always pondered the idea of fulfillment for human beings.  On one hand we all have different ideas of what it means to be fulfilled, but at the same time I feel like it is a smorgasbord of different things rather than one main goal.  I somehow cannot believe that the lady who has 5 kids but never had a career is completely 100% fulfilled, but that’s me. There is a chance she may be.  Is it enough that she feels fulfilled from raising her 5 children, either represses the dream of career fulfillment aside from child rearing, or does she consider her work enough?  I probably don’t know what the hell I’m talking about.  In fact I know I don’t know what the hell I’m saying because I’m dead tired, bit hallucinatory and dizzy. Ahem…anyway though. Getting back to my weak analysis of God knows what it is I wanted to address.  Oh yeah.  I guess fulfillment is the ability to apply your intellect and values together in a way that gives you a sense of pride and confidence and goal-meeting.  For someone with clinical depression however, the glow of “happiness” begotten from a triumphant feat, is very short-lived. It is not permanent for “normal” people either, but I think that the idea does linger more.  For us it is a joke.  I “accomplish” something (whatever the fuck that means as I never think I accomplish shit) and I just go right back to wondering whether I will be fulfilled tomorrow or not. 

Small pleasures however, the trivialities in the daily swing of life, keep me from beer bonging lighter fluid.  The idea of a beautiful reading chair that is arriving on Saturday is keeping me very happy at the moment.  The idea of my new red microwave is also fun.  I also love the time between the subway and the cafe where I am not eager to go to work, but very eager to get my coffee (and sometimes on Fridays a fatty pastry!!).  And of course, to be the cheesiest idiot alive, I simply adore my friends (my family is on the top, but that’s just too obvious).  I have some of the loveliest girlfriends around.  I don’t have loads of girfriends, only about a handful, but they are MORE than enough because of their spirit and love for me.  And I laugh at them because they are freaking hilarious, and they in turn ALSO laugh at me, so it’s like double fun everytime.  So, somehow, even within my terminal depressive brain, I am able to ignore the fact that I am a failure with no future who could have been a more successful artist and probably happier in the great sense. 

Ok, I can’t really ignore it. It haunts me and the need for that kind of fulfillment makes me weep with regret and frustration.  But in the meantime, I can count on coffees and furniture and books and friends to let me at least allow me to ignore that vague idea of needing great fulfillment.

It’s May

May 6th, 2008

Ok it is May and I haven’t written a post in a month.  That is ok by me though because I have turned over a new leaf. HAHAHAHA. No I haven’t.  I’m still the same old trudger.  Still trying to find out what the hell I did to ensure that I never succeed the way I wanted to.  The good news is I am getting an A in my class so far.  Some more good news is that I am performing tonight. It is just a small skit, but I thought of it, I wrote it, and I am doing it.  This does feel good. I must say.  The only thing that saddens me is that I know it will end soon.  My last class is Thursday, and after that I have a “summer off”.  Ok, it means I have work still but no other prospects.  I hope that without school I can do more performing, but knowing me, I will cower and cry instead…

I am incredibly anxious today for some reason however.  I don’t know if it’s the practically 8 pints of coffee that I’ve shoved down my gullet, or the jimmies from nervousness about my performance.  Either way - it’s not feeling so hot.  My shoulders are incredibly tensed.  Ok now this blog is turning into a complaint board in the style of a rickity old lady. But if that’s what I’ve become then so be it.

I am ready to fully embrace my new rickity-old-lady persona and dedicate this blog to complaints that only consist of: Weather, Aches, Expensive Prescriptions.